Making Connections
2. One day, in Middle School, I was hanging out with my friend, Dana, when she started to talk badly about our other friend, Anna. What she was saying was true and I definitely agreed so I joined in and said mean things behind our friend's back. The next day I felt really bad about what we said. I went to Dana and asked if we could not do that anymore because it didn't feel right. She said I was being ridiculous and that it was harmless. Every time Dana would talk badly about anyone, I would just say "yeah" but not actually join in on the conversation. I started realizing that I enjoyed hanging out with Anna more than I did Dana. Anna was a sweet girl and never talked badly of peers. I solely but surely stopped hanging out with Dana. I made sure to get my distance from her negativity. A couple of weeks later I heard that she was talking badly about me to her other friends for "ditching" her. I concluded that people willing to talk badly about other people to you will easily talk badly about you to other people. I know that Dana is just an unhappy person and likes to judge others so that people wont get a chance to judge her. I also realized that talking badly about people does absolutely no good for me and is so not worth it. Blowing out somebody else's candle won't make yours any brighter.
I really like how you recognized what you were doing was wrong and that you stopped talking to Dana. People like her are not good to keep around because you don't need that kind of negativity in your life. People like her just make you bitter and if you would of stayed her friend and you would of talked bad about other people, then other people would of disliked you. "Blowing out somebody else's candle won't make yours any brighter." I love this quote, this is so true. Talking about others, and making them look bad wont make you appear any better than anyone else. Talking about others makes you look like a hater and a bad person.
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